Things that are none of your business...

I would first like to say that even though these things did not all happen to me,  but they all took place yesterday.
So here we go, a list of things that are none of your business ((These aren't really directed at any one in particular, but I see these things all of the time, and its frustrating))

MONEY. 

How much we make, what we spend it on and "how much did that cost"

Its none of your business how much money we make. But more than that, its REALLY none of your business how we spend our money. I cannot STAND it when people think they should tell me what to spend my money on. In fact, just yesterday somebody told me that I had "enjoyed this lifestyle long enough and that I needed to stop going out and partying." First of all, I dont know where you got your information, but I am NOT a party girl. I hate going out. Now I do love to have a night with friends, bowling, bingo, a nice dinner with Chris. But its our money to spend. As long as Im not asking you to pay my bills, please keep your thoughts to yourself.  Or at least get your fucking facts straight.

Along those same lines, I also hate it when people ask "How much did THAT cost?!" Which I really interpret, "How can you afford that?" or "Who paid for that." (Implying that there is no way that we could have actually achieved something on our own). I will say, it is completely  different if you are sincerely interested. For example if I just bought a water bottle and you want the same one and say "Hey, how much did that cost?" No big deal. I will assume that you would just like a neat water bottle too. But if you come up to me and look at my ring and say "How much did THAT cost?! *scoff*" Then I assume you are insecure and jealous. It would be beneficial to you to just not even go there.

And while Im ranting on this topic I would like to point out that even though Chris and I enjoy lots of fun things together, there are many nights that we sit inside, watch a Netflix movie and eat a cheap dinner. We have never been late on our mortgage or fallen behind on our bills. As long as we can afford to go out, I will  enjoy my dates with Chris. Especially because I usually only see him 2-3 times a week.

Sex & Relationships

And everything that goes along with it

A friend told me yesterday that some one was looking down on her for living with her boyfriend. Actually she referred to it as "shacking up" I dont know how well it will work for them (even though i wish them the best best best) but moving in with Chris was the best decision I've ever made. I think cohabitation is a great 'testing ground for marriage.' You are forced to work things out and not walk away. You have to divide the work.- who pays the bills, who walks the dog, who cleans the house, who does the yard... and the list goes on and on and on. But thats what life and a partnership is about. And if you don't agree, that's fine, but don't sit there and judge me or anybody else for their choice to cohabitate. After all, wouldn't it be a hell of a lot easier to just move out of someones house than go through a divorce?  I will admit that cohabitation may not be for everyone, but you never know until you try. Open your minds people.

This is a completely different direction, but I have to say this. If someone discloses something personal about their sex life to you, please do not go back and repeat it to other people. Im sure they would not appreciate that, at all. Yesterday someone told me "You know Mr. X and Mrs. Y? Well they havent had sex in YEARS! Can you believe that? He does this this and this for her and still nothing! She wont even let him get in the bed until she is already asleep!" Okay, I did not need to know any of that. It is none of your business, but it certainly isnt any of mine. If someone confides in you, have respect for them by not telling the rest of the town.

Religion

Oh here we go...

I would like to start this off by saying that I believe in God and I most identify with the Christian religion.  But I dont go to church, because I think a lot of churches are hung up on dumb shit that doesnt matter. For example, Im pretty sure it wont hurt my relationship with God by having a piercing, or a martini, or go to a dance. And think about how all of these denominations of Christianity were formed. Somebody didnt like the way one church did things, so they split off and formed their own. To me, thats putting a little too much faith in man. I would rather have a great personal relationship with God where I talk to Him daily, no matter what Im in the middle of, instead of getting dressed to go worship only once a week. This is only my opinion. I honestly do not look down on any one of any religion. Its a personal choice. Just like anything else in life.

But last night something happened that made me so mad! I heard someone told a friend that men are supposed to be the leaders of the household. That MEN should pray to God and that MEN should relay the message to his wife. Give me a fucking break. I am perfectly capable of speaking for myself and listening for myself. If God wants me to know something, he will show me in His own way, not relay the message to my father or fiance so they can control me with what they want me to think God is saying.

Your faith is your business. My faith is mine. If you want to talk about it, please, feel free. But do not approach me and tell me that I am inferior to anyone , because thats a bunch of bullshit.

There are so many other little things like this that bother me, but I feel like I've ranted enough for the day. & whew, that was therapeutic!

Lucky

Im not sure why, but today I feel especially lucky to have the amazing life I have. :D I guess it's because last week was filled with such good times with friends and family.

On Wednesday, Chris and I went to Beer, Bands & Bingo @ Tacky Jacks. It was SO much fun!

But it was also very very crowded. We made friends with the people sitting all around us and ended up splitting some garbage nachos with the man sitting beside us. & he turned out to be a garbage man!! It was awesome, I was drunk, so I thought it was very appropriate that we shared garbage nachos with a garbage man.

The whole round Chris only got one number, boo.

I was pretty excited about bingo.

On Thursday, I had kickball after work. I am LOVING playing kickball on Thursday nights. If there is anybody interested in playing next season, please let me know. Id really like to put together a team! You have to have between 8-11 people on the field, and 4 girls have to be playing at all times. It would be a really great activity for couples to do together, or if your single, a great way to meet new people! & its not just about kickball either. Like last week after the game, we all hung out, drank beer, & ate chips and salsa in the parking lot after our big win! It was a really good time

Friday after work I got to have dinner with Lindsay! & it was so DELICIOUS! In fact, the ahi tuna salad at Ashland Pub was so good, I went back and had it again the next day.

Chris and I spent Saturday morning deep cleaning the house. Not very fun, but it was productive. I got to shampoo my carpets!

Then Saturday night we had a little get together at our house. Justin, Alisa, Bogdan, Suzanne, Janae, & Kevin came over and we just hung around, played a game & enjoyed each other company. It was nice just hanging around the house with friends.

& yesterday I spent the day scrap booking with my grandmother & hanging out with my parents. My mom & dad took my sister and I for a little boat ride & then we ate at the Mariner on Dog River. It was a good time hanging out with my family. Plus I got to discuss some wedding plans with my parents, and that was good too. (So far we've got the venue, the food & the dj & lighting decided on!)

After dinner with the fam, I took Mobley up to Satsuma to see Chris. I know that bed is teenie tiny, but I love those boys.

They are just too cute.

Put your money where your mouth is

First of all, I had to change my blog a little. Somebody reported my blog as being 'abusive' on facebook, so in order to link to my blog, I had to change the url & name. No big deal. If they keep reporting me, Ill keep changing it.

On a happy note...
Chris and I had the BEST date day yesterday. We spent the morning relaxing, playing with Mobley and napping. Around 11 we had a killer workout & ate some lunch. After we showered and lounged for a bit, we watched the Womens World Cup. This wasnt so exciting for me, but I did get to paint my nails. After USA lost, (boo), Chris took me to Bike Shop for an infamous cow tongue taco! YUMM! & Some guac and salsa. It was a delicious dinner. Plus, Chris got to take a look at the back deck. This is important because I am trying to convince Fred to have our rehearsal dinner at Bike Shop. This is possibly the best idea I've ever had. After dinner, we went home, had a glass of wine and curled up on the couch to watch Due Date.
It was a good day. I am so lucky. <3

Yesterday also started the first day of our 4 week bet. For the next 4 weeks, Chris and I are going to see who can lose a higher percentage of body weight. Loser has to pay for whatever winner wants for one day. If I win, I am going to take full advantage. Im thinking we will start the day with kayaking, or paddle boarding, we will have dinner somewhere nice (that serves creme brulee!) & I will def. be getting a massage. & perhaps midnight bowling with friends... we will see. I originally wanted to go bungee jumping, but I was informed that if I make Chris bungee jump if I win, he would make me crawl in a box of spiders if he wins. I decided that it wasnt worth the risk.
If any body has an suggestions on what to add to my perfect day (because I am totally going to win) Id love to hear them!

Bowlerriffic

I am too tired to come up with a clever title for this blog. Bowler-riffic is the best you're going to get.

I realized this week that I am completely unqualified to entertain a 16 year old boy. I tried to come up with fun things to do, but mostly Drew just looked at me like I was dumb. Plus, it was too damn hot to do anything fun outside.

But we did manage to have a blasty blast bowling on Friday night. Chris got a group of 11 of us together to go to Camellia( which was SUPER nice because it was smoke free!). Im kind of a terrible bowler, but we really did have a great time!

I got made fun of a lot for drinking wine at a bowling alley, but what can I say...

After bowling we went to Buffalo Wild Wings.

When we got back home, I passed out. Drew and Chris stayed up till waytoolate doing Godknowswhat. But its all good.

Sunday Drew and I ate some yummy seafood at Shrimp Basket & then headed to South Alabama's Rec Center. I dont think Drew realized that racquetball  could be fun, but we had a blast. We played racquetball for over an hour. & since we are both super competitive, we got a good workout too!

& Yesterday, Chris took Drew to the airport to go back home to Indy. I had a great time visiting with him, I just wish Mobile had more fun things to do.

On that note- I just found out that they have Paddle Boarding rentals on Dauphin Island. I am so pumped about this. I cant wait to go!! Im trying to convince Chris to take me on Sunday!! Ill let yall know how it goes!

Oh, Hey There. Havent Seen You In a While.

This week has brought me many things that I havent seen in a while. Like...

...Fireworks
 I wasnt planning on seeing fireworks this year. I had too much going on to go out of my way to go to a firework show. On the 4th I was going to spend the night with Chris since we had to get up so early the next morning. While I was up there, Chris had to run an errand for Donnie in Mobile, so I went with him. On the way back, he started driving through downtown Mobile. I wasnt really sure where we were going, but I wasnt too concerned either. As we were pulling up to the bridge, Chris looked at his phone and said "Its 8:58, I may be too early, but look to your right and you should see the fireworks from the Battleship." Just as he said that, the firework show began. I expected him to keep driving, but he pulled over on the side of the bridge so I could watch the fireworks. It was SO sweet. I am marrying the best man Ive ever met. God Im so lucky.

...Drew
Tuesday morning at 6:15 Chris and I headed towards New Orleans to pick up his nephew Drew. Drew's staying with us until Monday. Im not sure what kind of trouble we are going to get in to while he is here, but Im sure we will figure something out. If you have any suggestions on a what a 16 year old boy would want to do in Mobile, please let me know. Right now the only thing I have planned is forcing him to go to my kickball game. (Im so lame)
We didnt stay long in NOLA, but we did stay long enough to eat some delicious lunch at Acme Oyster House. Oh... and eat a beignet. Yummm.

... Single Digit Pant Sizes
When I started dieting 9 1/2 weeks ago, my size 12 pants were kind of tight. I started digging through the back of my closet to pull out my smaller clothes and I found this CUTE grey skirt that I'd never worn (because it was too small). I put it on this morning and it was too big I was pretty excited. Thrilled, actually. In fact, I  went out of my way to go by a store just to try on some pants. I didnt really have any intention of buying anything, I just wanted to see if they fit. & guess what, I am officially wearing a size 8. Its been a long time since I've seen single digit pant sizes. & hip bones. Those bitches have been hiding out under 20 lbs of fat these last few years. The other day when I was getting dressed and actually noticed I had hip bones, it was kind of a big deal for me.

... A really HYSTERICAL video
There are things that make me laugh so hard I cry and/or wet my pants often. Usually its me laughing at how weird Chris is, but this week I found this. (Well, technically, Chris showed me, but still)

 & I'll leave you with that...

One drink, Two drinks, Three drinks, Floor.

This week has been super intense. Tuesday I started school, Wednesday Chris and Lindsay and I went to Tacky Jacks, Thursday I had kickball. Friday night Suzanne & Drew came over for dinner. Saturday Chris & I went to the Duhe's 4th of July river party.

But last night... Oh last night takes the cake for the most interesting thing I did last week. I was planning on having a nice, relaxing day. I spent the majority of the day reading Water for Elephants (amazing book!) & napping with Mobs. Around 4 my friend William from Atlanta called and asked me to go out with him and his friends to B-Bobs. I know some people are weird about hanging out in a gay bar, but really who cares?! I wanted to see William, but I didnt want to go by myself. So I recruited Suzy. We decided we would go out after some dinner. Around 10:00 we all met at Corey & Chads houe. HOLY SHIT, their house is ahhhmazing. I know, what a cliche, that a gay guy has amazing decorating skills, but seriously. I love their house. I wish I had pictures.

We all went to B-Bobs for "Drinking with Lincoln." I've never been to an event like this. I figured advertised "penny drinks" would at least be .99. Ohh no. There was an $8 cover & then free well drinks. This is never a good idea.

While we were waiting on the Drag Show to start, we all hung around and people watched. Suzanne found the only homeless looking person in the place. There is no way this man was gay. He HAD to be there for the free drinks. Suzanne had a good enough buzz that she took her picture with him...

For this poor old drunk, it was love at first sight. Just a few drinks later, the man started dancing with Suzanne and gave her his awesome hunters orange hat. She wore it like a crown...

We had a blast hanging out, watching the drag show & drinking free drinks. I am paying for it this morning though. I feel like I got hit by a big, gay bus. Thank God I have today & tomorrow to recover!

Happy 4th of July, yall!!