So here we go, a list of things that are none of your business ((These aren't really directed at any one in particular, but I see these things all of the time, and its frustrating))
MONEY.
How much we make, what we spend it on and "how much did that cost"
Its none of your business how much money we make. But more than that, its REALLY none of your business how we spend our money. I cannot STAND it when people think they should tell me what to spend my money on. In fact, just yesterday somebody told me that I had "enjoyed this lifestyle long enough and that I needed to stop going out and partying." First of all, I dont know where you got your information, but I am NOT a party girl. I hate going out. Now I do love to have a night with friends, bowling, bingo, a nice dinner with Chris. But its our money to spend. As long as Im not asking you to pay my bills, please keep your thoughts to yourself. Or at least get your fucking facts straight.
Along those same lines, I also hate it when people ask "How much did THAT cost?!" Which I really interpret, "How can you afford that?" or "Who paid for that." (Implying that there is no way that we could have actually achieved something on our own). I will say, it is completely different if you are sincerely interested. For example if I just bought a water bottle and you want the same one and say "Hey, how much did that cost?" No big deal. I will assume that you would just like a neat water bottle too. But if you come up to me and look at my ring and say "How much did THAT cost?! *scoff*" Then I assume you are insecure and jealous. It would be beneficial to you to just not even go there.
And while Im ranting on this topic I would like to point out that even though Chris and I enjoy lots of fun things together, there are many nights that we sit inside, watch a Netflix movie and eat a cheap dinner. We have never been late on our mortgage or fallen behind on our bills. As long as we can afford to go out, I will enjoy my dates with Chris. Especially because I usually only see him 2-3 times a week.
Sex & Relationships
And everything that goes along with it
A friend told me yesterday that some one was looking down on her for living with her boyfriend. Actually she referred to it as "shacking up" I dont know how well it will work for them (even though i wish them the best best best) but moving in with Chris was the best decision I've ever made. I think cohabitation is a great 'testing ground for marriage.' You are forced to work things out and not walk away. You have to divide the work.- who pays the bills, who walks the dog, who cleans the house, who does the yard... and the list goes on and on and on. But thats what life and a partnership is about. And if you don't agree, that's fine, but don't sit there and judge me or anybody else for their choice to cohabitate. After all, wouldn't it be a hell of a lot easier to just move out of someones house than go through a divorce? I will admit that cohabitation may not be for everyone, but you never know until you try. Open your minds people.
This is a completely different direction, but I have to say this. If someone discloses something personal about their sex life to you, please do not go back and repeat it to other people. Im sure they would not appreciate that, at all. Yesterday someone told me "You know Mr. X and Mrs. Y? Well they havent had sex in YEARS! Can you believe that? He does this this and this for her and still nothing! She wont even let him get in the bed until she is already asleep!" Okay, I did not need to know any of that. It is none of your business, but it certainly isnt any of mine. If someone confides in you, have respect for them by not telling the rest of the town.
Religion
Oh here we go...
I would like to start this off by saying that I believe in God and I most identify with the Christian religion. But I dont go to church, because I think a lot of churches are hung up on dumb shit that doesnt matter. For example, Im pretty sure it wont hurt my relationship with God by having a piercing, or a martini, or go to a dance. And think about how all of these denominations of Christianity were formed. Somebody didnt like the way one church did things, so they split off and formed their own. To me, thats putting a little too much faith in man. I would rather have a great personal relationship with God where I talk to Him daily, no matter what Im in the middle of, instead of getting dressed to go worship only once a week. This is only my opinion. I honestly do not look down on any one of any religion. Its a personal choice. Just like anything else in life.
But last night something happened that made me so mad! I heard someone told a friend that men are supposed to be the leaders of the household. That MEN should pray to God and that MEN should relay the message to his wife. Give me a fucking break. I am perfectly capable of speaking for myself and listening for myself. If God wants me to know something, he will show me in His own way, not relay the message to my father or fiance so they can control me with what they want me to think God is saying.
Your faith is your business. My faith is mine. If you want to talk about it, please, feel free. But do not approach me and tell me that I am inferior to anyone , because thats a bunch of bullshit.
There are so many other little things like this that bother me, but I feel like I've ranted enough for the day. & whew, that was therapeutic!
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